#TheSuitableHelp Episode 3

1.Hello tweeps, I welcome you to the 3rd Episode of #TheSuitableHelp, Wisdom 4 Wives.

2. We've been looking at The 8 Attitudes of #TheSuitableHelp and today we're continuing on that series.

3. Let me quickly give some key points from our last episode. #TheSuitableHelp

 4. God has expectations of us as wives and this is revealed in Titus 2:3-5 (AMP). #TheSuitableHelp

5.Fulfilling your marital destiny depends on your understanding of God's purpose for you as a wife in marriage. #TheSuitableHelp

6. You need to see and accept you marriage as priceless for you to be able to give whatever it will take for its success. #TheSuitableHelp

7. As wives we don't struggle for importance in marriage, submitting to God's word brings us honour and makes us relevant. #TheSuitableHelp

8. A disciplined wife is good at planning and managing her time very well. #TheSuitableHelp

9. She understands that her overwhelming role can take a toll on her person and cause friction in her relationship.....(1)

10..thr4 she plans and prioritises her activities to ensure she's ready to shift attentn to her man when he's around (2). #TheSuitableHelp

11. She makes the home neat and welcoming, kids are no excuse for an untidy house. #TheSuitableHelp

12. His home shouldn't be an extensn of his office wc speaks of chaos but an haven of peace dt is welcoming and relaxing. #TheSuitableHelp

13. She's not excessive but manages the family resources to help build a greater and secured future for everyone. #TheSuitableHelp

14. As a pleasant wife she's warm and hospitable and knows how to manage her emotions. #TheSuitableHelp

15.A reasonable wife is unnecessarily worked up over her husbands weaknesses. #TheSuitableHelp

16. But understands that as a help meet, her role is to make up for his deficiency with her own strength. #TheSuitableHelp

17. Today we start off with the next attitude which is Love for her husband #TheSuitableHelp

18. I'm going to dwell on 2 areas you can show love to your husband. A. Giving him pleasure n B. Encouraging him. #TheSuitableHelp

19.There are couples who are living in divorced state bcos 1 partner has given up on d other's attitude to sexual intimacy. #TheSuitableHelp

20. You can't love a man you are not willing to give pleasure to. #TheSuitableHelp

21.When you become indifferent to your husbands emotional needs you wilfully push him into sin. #TheSuitableHelp

22.When ur husband says u're setting him up for temptatn....(1) #TheSuitableHelp

23.....its not a time to pick up a fight but to become reflective on your attitude to his needs. (2) #TheSuitableHelp

24 Are you full of excuses when he needs you most? #TheSuitableHelp

25. Most men aren't convinced by d excuses we give, they believe those excuses are an indirect way of rejecting them. #TheSuitableHelp

26. No matter how much a man tries 2 understand his wife he's still be' driven by an overwhelm' sexual need until its satisfied #TheSuitableHelp

27.Some women have a particular time of the month when they don't feel like having their spouse so close. #TheSuitableHelp

28.They get irritated by his touch and sometimes 'push him' away or just 'cooperate' to fulfil all righteousness. #TheSuitableHelp

29.This feeling sometimes is caused by overwhelming thoughts and burdens we carry as women. #TheSuitableHelp

30. Consciously freeing your mind helps you look forward to your spouse's hold. #TheSuitableHelp

31. You also need to learn to see God in your spouse which creates in you a sense of comfort and security in his arms. #TheSuitableHelp

32. Dear woman of God, ur spouse's demand for sex is not an indication that he's pervert or canal, he's just being a man.#TheSuitableHelp

33. You need an understanding of God's mind concerning sex and your response to your spouse need. 1Cor 7:4-5. #TheSuitableHelp

34.Don't foolishly trust ur spouse's integrity and endurance level by creating opportunities for his temptation. #TheSuitableHelp

35. Have an open mind, read books that would help you improve your sex life, an submit to God for strength, He created sex. #TheSuitableHelp

36.Make each day new, fill it with joy and love. Be grateful for the kids but they're not to hinder you from giving ur man pleasure.#TheSuitableHelp

37.Make yourself appealing to him. If his definition of sexiness is bearing it all, who says u can't do the same for him in the house. #TheSuitableHelp

38.Don't look 50's in ur 30's n complain ur husband is spend'g too much time in the coy of his female colleagues.#TheSuitableHelp

39.If its bumper short n skimpy dresses that gets him turned on, go and get some for yourself and rock it for him 'in the house'. #TheSuitableHelp

40.Those passionate look you used to give him when you were courting should be revived in your marriage. #TheSuitableHelp

41.A man's concept of intimacy is quite diff from that of a woman, to d man its his ultimate expression of his love for the woman. #TheSuitableHelp

42.I'm not painting the man as a sexual pervert but only reiterating the fact that God made him to need sex. #TheSuitableHelp

43.And the more a woman response positively to her man, the greater would be his satisfaction and the sweeter he becomes. #TheSuitableHelp

44. Wives should also love by encouraging their husbands. #TheSuitableHelp

45. Encouraging your man means listening to him. #TheSuitableHelp

46. Encouraging your man means understanding him instead of criticising him. #TheSuitableHelp

47. Encouraging your man means validating him. #TheSuitableHelp

48. Encouraging your man means you accept him for who he is. #TheSuitableHelp

49. Encouraging your man means you believe in him and will always act in a way that brings him honour. #TheSuitableHelp

50. The 3rd attitude is loving your children. #TheSuitableHelp

51.Love your children by creating an environment of love and happiness for them to thrive in. #TheSuitableHelp

52.You love your kids by practising what you preach. #TheSuitableHelp

53.Be an example of true love to them by loving their father irrespective of his weaknesses. #TheSuitableHelp

54.Be an example of respect to them by not talking back at your husband and calling him names before the kids. #TheSuitableHelp

55.Be an example of one with a free spirit by living happy instead looking sad and moody all the time. #TheSuitableHelp

56.As a mother occassionally ask yourself, what comes to the mind of your children when they think of you as a mother? #TheSuitableHelp

57.Does the thought of you create fear in them or faith? #TheSuitableHelp

58.Some children never have a memory of their mum dancing with their father or playing with him or even playing with him. #TheSuitableHelp

59. What fun memory have u created in them to help them believe marriage is sweet and not bitter? #TheSuitableHelp

60.Would they only remember mum for her complaints and condemnation of dad for his irresponsibility. #TheSuitableHelp

61.How is your life as a wife and a mother preparing your daughter into a wife suitable for her husband? #TheSuitableHelp

62.God has placed a demand on u to love ur children. Don't neglect it bcos d father is never around to support u #TheSuitableHelp

Thanks for following this episode, I hope you were blessed. I'll be back next week for another episode of #TheSuitableHelp.

You can contact me on flogun29@gmail.com for your questions. I'll be willing to attend to them.#TheSuitableHelp.

God bless you all