When Relationships Become Toxic

Relationships aren't built in one day but are started in a day. Building lasting relationship takes commitment and sacrifice.

When there is a reason to end such a relationship it becomes difficult as so much has gone into it. When the purpose of a relationship ends you must be willing to let go, which happens to be the hardest part. Holding unto a relationship that has outlived its purpose takes a toll on your energy as it is no longer sustained naturally.

You spend so much time and energy resolving differences and trying to restore trust and confidence. At this level, the relationship becomes toxic to your emotional and psychological well-being. It also hinders growth in your personal life, career, business and the opportunity to initiate other relationships. When you start feeling drained, you need to step back and make a good assessment of it and its impact on you.

Assess the relationship by answering the following questions.

Is this relationship compromising my values and beliefs?

Is it draining me of positive energy? Am I becoming too critical of others?

Am I growing and advancing towards my goals?

Am I still full of love or is it being overtaken by resentment?

Have I been living in compromise to be able to sustain this relationship?

Am I putting my energy to good use or is there an aspect of my life that is suffering? Remember that when you give your energy to what is not deserving of it, what is deserving suffers.

Remaining in a relationship characterised by conflicts, destruction of self esteem, drains your positive energy. You may come to the point where you need to give up something to experience freedom and advancement in life.

Letting go isn't always easy, but you need to realise its a healthy choice you're making for your life. Its a choice to move on without those trying to pull you down. You may also need to confront the situation when the people involved are close family or friends. Make them understand your feelings in the relationship and let them know until there's a change in behaviour you're moving on. Be careful not to sound like you're judging or blaming anyone for your feelings but take responsibility for how you feel.

It might not be easy but you sure would feel relieved opening up about your feelings in the relationship. You would have also succeeded in setting the tone for a mature relationship characterised by respect for others.

As you move on in life assess your relationships and deal with those that have outlived their purpose and becoming toxic. End every toxic relationship before it ends you. Build functional relationships that would believe in your values and goals and never undermine your progress. Are you willing to move on from a toxic relationship but don't know how to go about, contact me via email on flogun29@gmail.com.

Have a flourishing day!