Have you become addicted to seeking people's approval before you can be sure you're doing the right thing? Have the opinion of others become so important that you've had to sacrifice your own dreams? How much do you value your own decisions? When you only thrive through others acceptance of who you are then its a dangerous position you've found yourself. You need to deliberately break free from this behaviour otherwise it will cripple your future.
Those who thrive through people's approval of them lack confidence and a good self image. They don't value what they have in them and do not believe in their personal strength. It is very important to them that the approval keeps coming so that they're willing to sacrifice their own dreams to be accepted. For every decision they need to make in life, they are conscious of other's acceptance and approval of it. This isn't the best place to be in life, it can be damaging to anyone's self worth. It hinders personal fulfilment, enthusiasm for life and eventually a drop in performance level. It is draining on your energy when you try to do things that don't come to you naturally. Your happiness in life becomes conditional, always depending on what others think of you. You can't live your best life if you're constantly feeling unworthy; this is imprisonment.
What are the tell signs that you're becoming addicted to other people's approval and acceptance of you?
• When you go against your values and beliefs to gain approval.
• When you find it easy to compromise your stand to make for peace.
• When you give false compliments to gain acceptance.
• Feeling hurt because others do not agree with you.
• Inability to say no when you ought to.
• When you can't express your disappointment for fear of rejection.
• Being eager to know what others are saying about you.
• When your personal conviction on a matter is never enough until you have others who agree with you.
●When you act in a way that's alien to your true self in a bid to get attention.
The world is never a straight jacket. There'll always be different opinions to life and situations. There's never a right or wrong opinion, you must believe in yourself and be willing to stay true to yourself that's the way to earn other people's respect. Believe in your ability to bring the best to the table, don't feel inadequate, no one is superior or better to the other person, we only have our uniqueness and our ability to maximise that unique quality is what makes others celebrate us.
If this article paints a picture you're very familiar with in yourself and would like help to overcome the behaviour highlighted, send a mail to flogun@ladiesfirstng.com or flogun29@gmail.com and you'll receive some assistance.
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