1. Hello tweeps Its episode 21 of #TheSuitableHelp Wisdom 4 Wives.
2. #TheSuitableHelp is aimed at providing wisdom, support and encouragement for wives and single ladies to fulfil God's call on their lives.
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4. Our topic for today is Fast Forward #TheSuitableHelp
5. I often wonder why its difficult to replicate career success in our marriages. #TheSuitableHelp
6. But on a close examination, you'll discover that the qualities that make for success at work can destroy any marriage. #TheSuitableHelp
7. To succeed at work you need to be competitive, critical, non-tolerant, perfection driven, success driven..., #TheSuitableHelp
8. These are just a few of the qualities that make for success at work. #TheSuitableHelp
9. If these attributes work very well at work why can't they be applied in marriage setting. #TheSuitableHelp
10. Competition: competing in marriage can be damaging, couples are not meant to outshine each other... #TheSuitableHelp
11. but to complement each other's effort. Competition leads to comparison and feeling of inadequacy. #TheSuitableHelp
12. Criticism: Destroys the bond in marriage, leads to the feeling of not being appreciated. #TheSuitableHelp
13. Hinders couples from seeing and celebrating each other's unique qualities. #TheSuitableHelp
14. Perfectionism is a no go area in marriage or any other kind of relationship. #TheSuitableHelp
15. It can lead to resentment when you feel the other person's unreliable attitude is making you feel overwhelmed. #TheSuitableHelp
16. It leads to feeling like a failure when one partner can't meet up with the other person's standard. #TheSuitableHelp
17. One key ingredient in a successful marriage tolerance, this is highly deficient in a marriage of perfectionists. #TheSuitableHelp
18. Is it just the combination of these traits that make for career success? #TheSuitableHelp
19. I'll say no, one major strength that merges them together is devotion which is the result of our choices. #TheSuitableHelp
20. If only successful people could put in the same amount of devotion to their marriage as in their career. #TheSuitableHelp
21. Then they'll be able to replicate the same success at home. #TheSuitableHelp
22. Our lives (career, relationships, family) is a result of the decisions of yesterday. #TheSuitableHelp
23. What tomorrow's outcome will be is dependent on the decisions and choices of today. #TheSuitableHelp
24. Nora desires to get to the peak of her career, this is what she's always dreamt of. #TheSuitableHelp
25. In a few years time, this will become a reality, she just needs to give it a little more push. #TheSuitableHelp
26. Hubby should understand, there'll be enough time to make up for the moments she's wasn't really there. #TheSuitableHelp
27. There'll be time for romantic dates, sex by the beach; she'll even be able to afford exotic holidays she'd often think. #TheSuitableHelp
28. His complaints sometimes sounded irrelevant, unreasonable and insensitive. #TheSuitableHelp
29. The kids too should understand and learn to tolerate the maid after all, she's doing all these for them. #TheSuitableHelp
30. So they'll be happy living the life daddy's meager salary couldn't afford them. #TheSuitableHelp
31. (Fast forward) 5yrs down the line, Nora finally gets her break and eventually makes the much anticipated mark. #TheSuitableHelp
32. She's been promoted to head an international corporation! here comes the life she had longed for. #TheSuitableHelp
33. And then it suddenly hits her, that feeling of loneliness. It all started few months back... #TheSuitableHelp
34. When hubby suddenly stopped complaining about her neglect. #TheSuitableHelp
35. He'd even changed from his old self, looking more lively and happy, spending more time outside with friends. #TheSuitableHelp
36. He hadly took notice of her presence, and showed no interest in her rants about the children. #TheSuitableHelp
37. Could there be someone else in the picture, bringing out the life in Tony (her hubby) she had thought? #TheSuitableHelp
38. The children too have become very uncontrollable. How did they get out of hands? #TheSuitableHelp
39. What has she not given them or be willing to provide for them? What on earth could make Jude (son) pilfer? #TheSuitableHelp
40. Her relationship with the daughter had long been estranged, she doesn't even know how to begin to connect with her. #TheSuitableHelp
41. Is this what she gets in return for putting all her life into her work... #TheSuitableHelp
42. hoping to make everyone happy; loneliness, disappointment and bitterness. #TheSuitableHelp
43. Nora's situation is relevant to many of our lives as a result of our choices. #TheSuitableHelp
44. When we keep choosing work over family, we'll be well accomplished at work while family will take a back seat. #TheSuitableHelp
45. This article isn't saying family is more important than work, all areas of our lives are important. #TheSuitableHelp
46. You can't deny one part for the other, fulfilment will be missing. #TheSuitableHelp
47. What we should aim at is the ability to maximise each area of our life to get the best out of it. #TheSuitableHelp
48. We can do this when we understand what each of these areas means to us? #TheSuitableHelp
49. What does family mean to you, what does work accomplishment mean to you, what does personal growth mean to you? #TheSuitableHelp
50. Your response to this will help you align your priorities, values, actions and time to create the balance your life needs. #TheSuitableHelp
51. As you grow in the skills required to take your career to the next level also build skills that promote marital success. #TheSuitableHelp
52. Develop the ability to maximise your life by being devoted to every area of it. #TheSuitableHelp
53. If you have the power to fast forward your life into the future, 5, 10 years down the line.... #TheSuitableHelp
54. What will be the result of today's choices and actions, will you be proud and pleased with what you see? #TheSuitableHelp
55. Thanks for your time on this episode of #TheSuitableHelp. God bless your marriages.
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