Thursday, 23 April 2015

#TheSuitableHelp Episode 13: What Do You Want In A Man

1. Hello tweeps and welcome to episode 13 of #TheSuitableHelp Wisdom 4 Wives.  

2. #TheSuitableHelp is aimed at providing wisdom, support and encouragement for wives to help them fulfil God's call on their lives.  

3. The whole episodes in April have been dedicated to single ladies and its been awesome. #TheSuitableHelp  

4. We've had 3 episodes so far on this series with the following topics, "Don't Put Your Life On Hold". #TheSuitableHelp  

5. "Marriage Isn't The Answer." And "Preparing For Marriage." #TheSuitableHelp  

6. To get the full dose of each of this revealing topics, check out the blog, http://flourishingwoman.blogspot.com #TheSuitableHelp  

7. Today we look at another interesting topic "What Do You Want In A Man." #TheSuitableHelp  

8. Every lady hoping to be married one day has a list of what she would consider in her Mr. Right. #TheSuitableHelp  

9. I had mine and I know most married women out there also had this list of expectations they looked out for. #TheSuitableHelp  

10. To assure them the man they were settling for was the right person. #TheSuitableHelp  

11. There's this common word, ladies use so often, "my type." Which often refers to his looks. #TheSuitableHelp  

12. Over the years, I've come to realise that as we grow older in marriage, we tend to loose grip on those notions. #TheSuitableHelp  

13. Marriage is real and not a fantasy or a dream. When reality sets in you pay less attention to his height, complexion, etc 1/2. #TheSuitableHelp  

14. And focus on those things that are important to the success of the marriage. (2/2) #TheSuitableHelp  

15. I'm not advocating for you to marry someone you end up regretting each morning you wake up by his side. #TheSuitableHelp  

16. The point I'm trying to make here is that when you ask happily married women the secret of their marital success 1/2 #TheSuitableHelp,  

17. No woman tells you they've weathered the storm to this point because her husband is tall, dark and handsome. #TheSuitableHelp  

18. Those who make his looks a priority become insecure in the marriage when they feel threatened by other women. #TheSuitableHelp  

19. Beyond having a good looking guy you can proudly introduce to friends, other key requirements also suffice. #TheSuitableHelp  

20. (1) How much does he care about your spiritual and emotional health? #TheSuitableHelp  

21. A man who cares about you in these areas will not want to compromise you or violate anything important to you. #TheSuitableHelp  

22. (2) How does he deal with your family? How much consideration does he give them in his decisions? #TheSuitableHelp  

23. If your family is important to you then they should be important to him as well. #TheSuitableHelp  

24. Is he interested in connecting with them? If not, take note, he might isolate you from them when he has you. #TheSuitableHelp  

25. When you notice strange behavious, ask questions before jumping into conclusions. #TheSuitableHelp  

26. He could be taking precautionary measures due to past experiences, but he should be willing to talk about his concerns. #TheSuitableHelp  

27. (3) Does he have unsettled issue with his family, mother or father? Do you sense resentment towards someone in his life. #TheSuitableHelp  

28. Unresolved issues leading to unforgiveness could affect him in the marriage. #TheSuitableHelp  

29. (4) How does he treat his mum, with respect or with disdain? #TheSuitableHelp  

30. Sometimes how a man treats his mother is an indication of how he's going to treat his wife. #TheSuitableHelp  

31. (5) What additions is he making to your life? Are you better of now than when he first walked into your life? #TheSuitableHelp  

32. Have you become more focused and determined since you met him or have you become more confused about life? #TheSuitableHelp  

33. The man you look out for should be a man who knows what to do to secure your future. #TheSuitableHelp  

34. (6) How is his capacity at solving problems? How does he comport himself when under stress? #TheSuitableHelp  

35. Does he hold it together when under pressure or does he come crumbling apart? #TheSuitableHelp  

36. (7) What are his leadership abilities? This is very important because you're going to be submitting to this man. #TheSuitableHelp  

37. Does he carry you along in his decisions or he's a dictator? #TheSuitableHelp  

38. (8) How is his money handling habits? Do you see both of you complementing each other in this area? #TheSuitableHelp  

39. (9) What habits are you only tolerating hoping he'll change later? What if he doesn't, what will it cost you to live with it? #TheSuitableHelp  

40. (10) Is he a man of vision? A man without a vision has nothing to look forward to tomorrow. #TheSuitableHelp  

41. Does he have goals he's working at? Is he a good planner? Or does he live each day as it comes? #TheSuitableHelp  

42. (1) Are you compatible in areas of values and beliefs? Are you willing to make compromises and adjustments? #TheSuitableHelp  

43. Don't be too much in a hurry to settle down with that guy only because he gets all heads to turn when he makes an entry. #TheSuitableHelp  

44. Pay attention to those qualities that wouldn't be affected by age. #TheSuitableHelp  

45. If there are warning signs, please do not ignore them. #TheSuitableHelp  

46. Whatever you see and ignore while courting is what you'll get and live with in marriage. #TheSuitableHelp  

47. May your hearts be guided aright by God and not be pressured. #TheSuitableHelp  

48. May the Holy Spirit guide you into complete release and peace before you make that final decision. #TheSuitableHelp  

49. Thanks once again for being a part of episode 13 of #TheSuitableHelp   50. Have a great life and remain fulfilled as a single. #TheSuitableHelp

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