1. Hello tweeps and welcome to episode 9 of #TheSuitableHelp Wisdom 4 Wives.
2. #TheSuitableHelp is aimed at providing wisdom, support and encouragement for wives to help them fulfil God's call on their lives.
3. You can get episode 8 here If you missed it. http://goo.gl/RDWjpk #TheSuitableHelp
4. Today, we're looking at "New Update Available....No, Remind Me Later!." #TheSuitableHelp
5. It can be a nag when you're busy on your computer and notifications for new updates pop up. #TheSuitableHelp
6. As annoying as this may be its important to have these updates if your applications must remain up to date (1/2) #TheSuitableHelp
7. with all the latest features and bug fixes by the manufacturers. (2/2) #TheSuitableHelp
8. There are few occasions when I've had to select, "No, remind me later because I didn't have that time to spare. #TheSuitableHelp
9. How often do you receive notifications to update your marriage application? #TheSuitableHelp
10. These notifications pop up each time your differences rear their heads causing friction in the relationship. #TheSuitableHelp
11. Notifications pop up when you are unwilling to let go of the way you used to do things previously. #TheSuitableHelp
12. Notifications pop up when you deliberately refuse to negotiate the differences in your marriage leading to division. #TheSuitableHelp
13. Before you married your spouse you spent time together and was never tired of his company. #TheSuitableHelp
14. No matter how tight your schedule was you always made out time to talk, listening and never getting enough of him. #TheSuitableHelp
15. Dating time was a time for discovering as much as you could about each other through communication. #TheSuitableHelp
16. You talked one on one, on the phone, sms, you made sure every form of communication was exploited. #TheSuitableHelp
17. It was a learning process so as you talked you evaluated the things you discovered about him. #TheSuitableHelp
18. If they were things you could cope with the rest of your life, 19. but because you were so much in love you could accept most of his difference. #TheSuitableHelp
20. And being out to please the one you love you could tolerate and accommodate just anything. #TheSuitableHelp
21. The moment you got married and each of you settled into his/her role, the reality of life set in. #TheSuitableHelp
22. You began to respond to life's demands on your time, energy and attention with little or no time for each other. #TheSuitableHelp
23. When kids started arriving they took centre stage as their dev got all focus while you and your hubby stop growing as a couple. #TheSuitableHelp
24. One thing became so obvious, your differences. You began to notice how both of you were miles apart in ways of life, habits and customs. #TheSuitableHelp
25. The very things that attracted you to him when you were dating were now the issues you needed to change about him. #TheSuitableHelp
26. What is actually going on at this phase is that both of you are now more real to each other 27. and the reality of together till death us do part is registered in your mind. #TheSuitableHelp
28. The natural instinct is to want to fight what you believe u can't tolerate let alone put up wt it the rest of ur life. #TheSuitableHelp
29. Both of you start to drift apart, you loose interest in each other's company or stop acknowledging the other person's feelings. #TheSuitableHelp
30. Then you wake up one morning to realise you've been living with a total stranger all your life or so you think. #TheSuitableHelp
31. You no longer understand each other and feel there's nothing to work on.
32. Your spouse who took his marriage vow seriously begins to find reason to spend late nights outside the home. #TheSuitableHelp
33. When you neglect the need to learn and grow with your spouse you end up creating problem for yourself. #TheSuitableHelp
34. Also neglecting the role of communication in building intimacy creates a vacuum to be filled by someone else. #TheSuitableHelp
35. Just as I get too busy to give in to the notification on my system isn't that how we get too busy to pay attention
36. to those little notifications about our marriages? #TheSuitableHelp
37. We are too impatient to read a book about temperament that would help us grow in our marriage. #TheSuitableHelp
38. We are too busy to notice the tension brewing in our marriage, too busy to notice we're pushing our man out. #TheSuitableHelp @gbonjute
39. We're too impatient to even notice that those frictions are notifications dt we've long stopped growing as a couple. #TheSuitableHelp
40. Let's see some of the reasons why we update installed applications on our systems to drive home the point:
41.A. Security: Security vulnerability of some software are taken care of by updating to newer versions of it.
42. Updating your marriage application secures your marriage, your bond, your intimacy and your love. #TheSuitableHelp @FrankerAligbe
43. B. Stability: Updated versions also take care of issues with the older version that results in improved performance. #TheSuitableHelp
44. Updating your knowledge and growing with your spouse stabilises your home through peace and understanding. #TheSuitableHelp
45.C. Features: Newer versions also come with additional features to be enjoyed.
46. Learning and growing helps you discover beautiful things about each other that spices up the relationship. #TheSuitableHelp
47. Its a lifelong process of learning and growing that would require time, patience, commitment and communication.
48. These efforts may be met with a brick wall occasionally, don't be discouraged keep at it. #TheSuitableHelp
49. The blessing in the end will be worth every trouble and pain put into it. #TheSuitableHelp
50. Its a blessing to learn and grow with your spouse as it affords you opportunity to help him sort through his difficult times.
51. When this becomes an habit, it builds intimacy and a bond that can never be broken.
52. It build trust and a marriage you're both proud of and happy to be in.
53. Thanks for being a part of episode 9 of #TheSuitablehelp hope you were blessed.
54. Till next time have a blessed life and keep updating your marriage application.
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